Everyone knows that gratitude makes people happier.
Maybe not everyone, but popular psychology instructs us to write gratitude journals, naming a magic three things per day that we feel grateful for. One can find gratitude journals in hard-bound form, in smartphone apps, and in Facebook memes. That's because gratitude journaling works, according to research in positive psychology (Emmons and McCullough, 2003).
Some days it's hard to write anything in the gratitude journal. Days when little things go wrong one after another, we hug those hurts to ourselves as if to use them as currency to bargain with our Maker for better luck. When we fall into negative self-talk, learned patterns of pessimism, we can't find a thing to be grateful for. Gratitude doesn't come to mind when we suffer from depression or post-traumatic stress disorder.
I have those days of suffering, given that I live with Bipolar 2, which I've been open about in these pages. I also wrestle with negative self-talk. I've wrangled these two into submission for the most part, but still depression and darkness pop out at times.
I challenge the darkness with gratitude:
I am grateful for my bipolar disorder, because it has made me take care of myself. I am grateful because it has given me insight into suffering.
I am grateful for getting my manuscripts rejected because it has forced me to work harder and improve my writing.
I am grateful for my struggles because they remind me that nothing is simple in life.
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